Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Why We Love

"Because possessiveness is so common in nature, animal behaviorists have given it a name: mate guarding. They regard this taste for sexual exclusivity as a primary aspect of courtship in many species." - 46

"norepinephrine is even linked with a specific mammalian courting pose: lordosis--the female habit of crouching, arching her back, and tipping up her buttocks toward her suitor to advertise sexual availability." - 48

Saturday, January 7, 2017

Why We Love

Started reading Why We Love. I'm barely into the introduction and I can already tell I'm going to love it. I have set a goal for myself to read at least 12 books this year, one a month. And I'm not counting comic books or anything super short. I failed miserably at this goal last year but this year I am more serious about it since if I pace myself and make time for reading instead of watching tv I can easily accomplish it.

From Why We Love the nature and chemistry of romantic love by Helen Fisher.

Page xii:

Romantic love, I believe, is one of the three primordial brain networks that evolved to direct mating and reproduction. Lust, the craving for sexual gratification, emerged to motivate our ancestors to seek sexual union with almost any partner. Romantic love, the elation and obsession of "being in love," enabled them to focus their courtship attentions on a single individual at a time, thereby conserving precious mating time and energy. And male-female attachment, the feeling of calm, peace, and security one often has for a long-term mate, evolved to motivate our ancestors to love this partner long enough to rear their young together.

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Story of Qays, son of tribal chieftain in ancient Arabia. In love with Layla meaning "night" for her jet black hair. He became known as Majnun, or madman.

Page 8:

"But love... it's only an illusion. A story one makes up in one's mind about another person. And one knows all the time it isn't true. Of course one knows; why one's always taking care not to destroy the illusion." - Virginia Woolf

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"With thee conversing, I forget all time." - Milton in Paradise Lost