Thursday, March 23, 2017

How to be a person in the world

Excerpts from How To Be a Person in The World by Heather Havrilesky

You're so good at being GOOD. But how good are you at being YOU?
page 138

A lot of women out there are afraid of being something.
page 139

The lack of spark within you comes from the conflict between WHO YOU TRY TO BE and WHAT YOU REALLY WANT FOR YOURSELF. You want more. You act like you don't want more, you act like you're satisfied, but in fact you want a lot more.
page 141

Monday, March 20, 2017

How to be a Person in The World

Excerpts from How To Be a Person in The World by Heather Havrilesky

Being nice is worthless if you're just going to feel resentful about it in the end. You might as well just be outspoken and state your needs from the outset. Because as much as people resent assertive women, they resent disingenuous, overly friendly, secretly furious women even more.

- page 83

So don't walk around telling these stories about how "one thing led to another" anymore. No one wants to hear your self-created, self perpetuated, narratives.

- page 96

You think he digs you because you're extra-sexy? He digs you because you're pretending. He digs you because you're drawn in by his bullshit. He digs you because you're just like him: strong on the outside, weak and needy on the inside.

- page 98


Thursday, March 2, 2017

How to be a person in the world

Excerpts from How To Be a Person in The World by Heather Havrilesky

"The world has told you lies about how small you are." - page 17

"Sadly, becoming an adult often requires learning to negotiate with devils." - page 21

"Being an idealist is worthless unless you have a strategy for sustaining yourself and aiming for a more conscientious way of living." - page 21

"Groups can't fulfill your every need. Your spouse can't single handedly bring you happiness. Your best female friend can't save you from being alone. Your group of college friends won't feel perfectly right for you when you're in a certain mood. There will always be discrepancies between you and your friends where priorities and lifestyle are concerned. So don't let it prevent you from forging new connections." - page 22

"Your taste for reductive dichotomies, along with your outsized reactions to other people's perceptions of you, may not always serve you..." - page 27

"So many people are allergic to confessional, outspoken women. And let's face it, we're not always serving the common good. We're neurotic motherfuckers with way too much on our minds at all times." - page 29

"Your first priority should be to keep an open mind, to listen, to observe men with a clear, uncluttered perspective. Your second priority should be to never, ever waste a minute of your time on a guy who's tepid." - page 48